Review of Family Jewels and More Family Jewels by Hardy Haberman
The author, Hardy Haberman, has done hundreds of workshops and lectures on this subject, having little idea how popular the topic was when he got started. Now he has two successful books on CBT, the original Family Jewels, and the sequel, More Family Jewels. We’ll cover the first book first.
For many, the very mention of CBT (cock and ball torture) may cause your testicles to go running for cover, but this is a kink that has a number of aficionados. Considering the value and delicacy of the matter at hand, knowing what you are doing would be a very, very good thing. This book offers excellent, knowledgeable advice on how to go to the edge without falling over it.
Writing primarily from the perspective of a male dom and his male partners, it also provides enough detailed information on anatomy and other aspects of the male organ for female dominants to really get a handle on the subject.
So what exactly is CBT? It can include a tight squeeze of the penis, ball twisting during oral sex, the use of hemostats and other equipment, ball weights, knife play, and even butterflying (where the lose skin of the testicle are pinned to a board). Needless to say, a lot of CBT can be very intense.
Some of it can also be potentially damaging, which is why knowing what you are doing (and what you should not be doing) is very important. This book does a very good job of letting you know what things are potentially harmful and what you can do to avoid harming your partner. There are sections that point out the risks of impact and compression, twisting and bending, electrostimulation, urethral play, and much more.
There is a chapter on toys, which includes everything from the traditional cock rings and restraints to using household basting brushes and meatball presses. It covers a wide range of devices and things you probably never thought of.
The last half of the book focuses on technique. It presents them in the context of complete scenes, describing them in detail and how each part plays out. They describe actual scenes, so you know the author has actually tried whet he describes. This will not only be erotic to read for those attracted to the idea of CBT, it is also filled with great perverse ideas.
The second book, More Family Jewels, was inspired by the feedback he got from the first book and at his many presentations. While the story format was a part of the first book, it is the main emphasis here. The stories are based on his personal experiences and the many scenes he has observed.
The book begins with some definitions of terms and some basic safety information. Then he gets into the stories. While he points out that he has found about an equal number of men and women interested in CBT, his orientation is gay, so the stories do reflect that orientation.
The stories themselves present different scenarios in which CBT was involved. It is basically an idea book.
While the non-straight thrust of the book might turn off heterosexual men, I just don’t see alot of heterosexual men looking to learn how to do CBT. Since many women do enjoy the idea of two men together, that should not be a problem for the female readers.
The second book has a lot of ideas for CBT play, but it is neither as practical or as useful as the first book. For those very into CBT play, though, they may well enjoy the stories as well as the ideas that they can get from them.